母亲姓冯名玉琼。孩子全长大后，都到北马一带发展。弟弟也买了一间双层半独立式，爸爸退休后，我们就一直邀两老来一块儿住，不必两人来回老家及这儿。其实这儿也是我父亲的家乡。
谁知道才搬来不到一年，妈妈就跌倒了，伤了盘骨。行动时会很痛，从此意志消沉。原本每天总会啐啐念，但慢慢被叹息声取代，笑容从她的脸上消失，嘴角也向下弯了。只是爱躲在房里睡觉。有人来探望，她也不理不睬。物理治疗也不肯做，连上厕所都不要，开始穿起尿布来，唯一肯做的就是按摩。
My mother name is Foong Yoke Kheng. After we had grown up, we stayed and worked in northern Malaysia. My brother bought a double storey semi-detach house. After my father’s retirement, we requested them to move over, so they didn’t have to travel. Actually here is my father’s hometown too.
After they had moved about a year, my mother fell down and cracked her pelvis. She complaint about pain whenever she walked. She became unhappy. Before this she liked to chat; she seldom smiles since then. She always stays in the room; doesn’t even bother when friends came and visited her. She refused to do exercise and even go to the toilet. She preferred to wear diapers. The only thing she wanted to try was massage.
My brother hired a maid to take care of her. Her spirit completely downed, she didn’t want to try even we encouraged her. Doctor advised that this is not good for her. I always reminded myself not to do likewhat she did when I grow older. But God’s will, I have to fae similar situation even before at the age of 40.
弟弟请了一个工人照顾她。她意志消沉，完全没有战斗力，我屡劝不听，什么也不想做。医生说心情会影响病情，但她老是不听。不久，她也能自行走动了我常警惕自己老了别像她。谁知道我四十不到就必须面对相似地情况。
After I had my stroke, all the attention from the family members shifted to me. Although she can walked, but sighed at each step. They gather at my house and maid helped to massage. My mother was so impatient and pushed to come back home. In return, I encouraged her to improve. (I was full of confidence that I could recover during that period)
中风回家后，全家人把注意力从母亲转移到我的身上。母亲虽然已经能够自己走路，但依然常常哀声叹气。中风后，大家就会到我家聚合，带着佣人来帮我按摩，她就会一直催大家回家。在她的面前我总是充满信心，鼓励她也振作起来。(其实初期中风的我的确充满信心，对前景毫不担心。)
中风一个月后，爸爸载我到医院检查，医生警告我说要控制情绪，不可太过伤心或高兴。当天就听说妈妈肚子痛进了医院。我当然是没有去探望她。这几天，全家人都一直进出医院，我被告之说她的病情不稳定，起起落落，进了紧急室。我只能够在家念经回向给她，希望她能渡过这一关。
After a month, my father fetched me to hospital for follow-up. Doctor advised me to control my emotion. On the same day, my mother was admitted and I couldn’t visit her. My relative to-and-fro hospital and I was told that her condition is not stable and bedded in ICU. I could only pray for her and wished that she would make it.
十二月八日晚上七点半，丈夫匆忙回家载我和女儿去爸爸家说妈妈出院了，要我们去见她。我就有些奇怪了，在路上忍不主问是不是出事了？因为病人不可能从紧急室马上回家。丈夫叫我保持冷静，说妈妈病情恶化，我们现在赶去见她最后一面。
7.30pm, 8th Dec 05, my husband informed that my mother was discharged from the ICU and she is on her way back to my brother’s house. He instructed me and my daughter to get ready to visit her right away. I suspected something is wrong and asked my husband whether bad thing had happen? He asked me to keep calm and to be with my mother through her last moment.
到了那儿，全家都到了，用轮椅推我去见她，她已手脚冰冷了。妹妹已帮她换好衣服、化好了妆，见了我后，医务人员就把插管拔掉，她也停止了呼吸，再由医生来证实她的死亡时间。
All the close family members arrived. They wheeled me beside her bed and her body temperature decreased. My sister dressed her up properly and the nurse pull out all supporting hoses (that moment, she couldn’t breath by her self) and the doctor confirmed that she had passed away.
她就这样走了，大家怕我情绪太过波动，送我回家，我也乖乖听话，她的葬礼我没出席，我只在家不停念经，还强打精神继续做物理治疗。其实这也是我的遗憾，虽然我知道她一定不会怪我。
We lost her… not to let me to go into deeper emotion, they send me home, I obey and cry my eyes out. I could not attend her funeral, just prayed for her from a distance. I knew as a mother, she would not blame her children for not being able to attend funeral, but yet, I feel sorry till now. I spirited my self to continue with the rehab.
谁知道才搬来不到一年，妈妈就跌倒了，伤了盘骨。行动时会很痛，从此意志消沉。原本每天总会啐啐念，但慢慢被叹息声取代，笑容从她的脸上消失，嘴角也向下弯了。只是爱躲在房里睡觉。有人来探望，她也不理不睬。物理治疗也不肯做，连上厕所都不要，开始穿起尿布来，唯一肯做的就是按摩。
My mother name is Foong Yoke Kheng. After we had grown up, we stayed and worked in northern Malaysia. My brother bought a double storey semi-detach house. After my father’s retirement, we requested them to move over, so they didn’t have to travel. Actually here is my father’s hometown too.
After they had moved about a year, my mother fell down and cracked her pelvis. She complaint about pain whenever she walked. She became unhappy. Before this she liked to chat; she seldom smiles since then. She always stays in the room; doesn’t even bother when friends came and visited her. She refused to do exercise and even go to the toilet. She preferred to wear diapers. The only thing she wanted to try was massage.
My brother hired a maid to take care of her. Her spirit completely downed, she didn’t want to try even we encouraged her. Doctor advised that this is not good for her. I always reminded myself not to do likewhat she did when I grow older. But God’s will, I have to fae similar situation even before at the age of 40.
弟弟请了一个工人照顾她。她意志消沉，完全没有战斗力，我屡劝不听，什么也不想做。医生说心情会影响病情，但她老是不听。不久，她也能自行走动了我常警惕自己老了别像她。谁知道我四十不到就必须面对相似地情况。
After I had my stroke, all the attention from the family members shifted to me. Although she can walked, but sighed at each step. They gather at my house and maid helped to massage. My mother was so impatient and pushed to come back home. In return, I encouraged her to improve. (I was full of confidence that I could recover during that period)
中风回家后，全家人把注意力从母亲转移到我的身上。母亲虽然已经能够自己走路，但依然常常哀声叹气。中风后，大家就会到我家聚合，带着佣人来帮我按摩，她就会一直催大家回家。在她的面前我总是充满信心，鼓励她也振作起来。(其实初期中风的我的确充满信心，对前景毫不担心。)
中风一个月后，爸爸载我到医院检查，医生警告我说要控制情绪，不可太过伤心或高兴。当天就听说妈妈肚子痛进了医院。我当然是没有去探望她。这几天，全家人都一直进出医院，我被告之说她的病情不稳定，起起落落，进了紧急室。我只能够在家念经回向给她，希望她能渡过这一关。
After a month, my father fetched me to hospital for follow-up. Doctor advised me to control my emotion. On the same day, my mother was admitted and I couldn’t visit her. My relative to-and-fro hospital and I was told that her condition is not stable and bedded in ICU. I could only pray for her and wished that she would make it.
十二月八日晚上七点半，丈夫匆忙回家载我和女儿去爸爸家说妈妈出院了，要我们去见她。我就有些奇怪了，在路上忍不主问是不是出事了？因为病人不可能从紧急室马上回家。丈夫叫我保持冷静，说妈妈病情恶化，我们现在赶去见她最后一面。
7.30pm, 8th Dec 05, my husband informed that my mother was discharged from the ICU and she is on her way back to my brother’s house. He instructed me and my daughter to get ready to visit her right away. I suspected something is wrong and asked my husband whether bad thing had happen? He asked me to keep calm and to be with my mother through her last moment.
到了那儿，全家都到了，用轮椅推我去见她，她已手脚冰冷了。妹妹已帮她换好衣服、化好了妆，见了我后，医务人员就把插管拔掉，她也停止了呼吸，再由医生来证实她的死亡时间。
All the close family members arrived. They wheeled me beside her bed and her body temperature decreased. My sister dressed her up properly and the nurse pull out all supporting hoses (that moment, she couldn’t breath by her self) and the doctor confirmed that she had passed away.
她就这样走了，大家怕我情绪太过波动，送我回家，我也乖乖听话，她的葬礼我没出席，我只在家不停念经，还强打精神继续做物理治疗。其实这也是我的遗憾，虽然我知道她一定不会怪我。
We lost her… not to let me to go into deeper emotion, they send me home, I obey and cry my eyes out. I could not attend her funeral, just prayed for her from a distance. I knew as a mother, she would not blame her children for not being able to attend funeral, but yet, I feel sorry till now. I spirited my self to continue with the rehab.
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